Oprah and Advice on Men
HEAR WHAT OPRAH HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN:
my favorites are in bold:
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends" A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you. SO TRUE!
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.)Definitely)
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
so which ones do you agree with?
my favorites are in bold:
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends" A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you. SO TRUE!
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.)Definitely)
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
so which ones do you agree with?
posted by samanthaq8 at 9:21 PM
19 Comments:
Oh my god! That is so true!!
Mind checking out my blog? No one has looked at it yet..^_^
http://thekirbyfiles.blogspot.com/
Most of this is coming from the show when she had the author "He's not that into you" on her show. Basically these are his ideas and advice.
Nonetheless I agree 100%.
I read your comment on The Don’s latest entry and that’s what grabbed me to your blog, I commend you for being so broad minded at such an early age, as for your post, I’d say all the above, and I would add that I wish I knew back then what I know now, very impressive blog
I think if a person knows their worth deep down inside they'd probably apply all of the above.
They're all good advice but I soooooo agree with "If something bothers you speak up" I think in order for a realtionship to continue smoothly you have to be expressive of your feelings makes you inderstand each other so much better.
Even though I'm a guy I agree with everything that is said!
I must admit I have a small issue with the following statement, "You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary." It is somewhat true in a sense but most people do need someone to "complete" them, it's the whole Ying and Yang Concept!
My favortie 3 quotes would be:
1) "Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less."
2) "Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job."
3) "You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street."
j- yes i know i saw that episode and i agree it is all the author's viewpoint, but i do agree with alot of it...let's colloborate and make up our own list...what do you think? ;)
ayya: thanx for visiting my blog...and thanx for the sweet comments..tfree-lance yoga instructor! wow! what kind of yoga? i know there are classes offered at some gyms, but i don't know who's good..do you give classes?
samboose: yes i agree
stallion: its nice to know there are guys like you...so open-minded and respectful of women..your girlfriend is be sooooooo lucky.. ..
I give Iyengar Yoga classes; a two hours of exercise that involve physical movements, breathing and relaxation. And I don’t trust classes that are given in gyms and that’s why I left them; mostly commercialized without the real essence of Yoga. You’d be better off with freelancers, but you have to provide a place for them. As for me I already have a busy schedule when I finish my vacation or else I would have loved to take you in, but I can give you a couple of good ones to contact if you are interested when I get back home.
i think it works both ways.. women can say it, men can say it too
mo i6laaba el mas'ala y3ni, wella?
I agree with them all. I am specifically interested in this point:
"A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you".
It not only applies to "a man", but to everyone else. For example, I respect everyone and in return I EXPECT everyone else to respect me. My actions should demand ppl to respect me and not allow any disrespect. Some people allow others to disrespect them, and although it hurts them inside, they don't do anything about it and start making up excuses to verify why that person did so. That's wrong. That brings us to the other point:
"Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache".
If someone allows ppl to mistreat them, I see it as a weakness, lack of self confidence AND self-respect.
So these quotes are all coming from the author of "He's not that into you"? Is this book the source of these quotes or what?
If so, I wanna read it.
salty,hey girl..
this is the book:
He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt..happy reading!
ayya: thanx.. would really appreciate it..have a nice holiday
Hell Yeah!!
i agree with almost all of them...my favorite is "keeping him in my radar but getting to know others.."lol
OMG!!! I agree with ALL!!
@@ almost everyone seems to agree with all! well, I for one DON'T! I do, but not with all ^_^
* My points are marriage-wise
Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
That applies to those who have insecure marriages. You're not obliged to speak of your past, but your current life belongs to both of you.
Marriage is sharing.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
I don't like the advice itself. Making someone feel important is part of loving & building confidence in that person.
Never co-sign for a man.
Can't you settle for a tangent of a man?
Thank you thank you, I'll be here all week ;p
* I agree with the rest, I think *
SamanthaQ8: I wish I could say that I have a girlfriend! "D" dumped me 2 weeks ago! I wish I didn't have to say that I'm single but I guess I have to! I will work on trying to see if "D" will take me back after all her stressful endevours have gone away!
Small piece of info, I wasn't dumped due to doing something wrong and I won't go into specifics as to reasons but I have to say that she is still a dear friend of mine! No grudges held here! ;)
I like this one...
"The only person you can control in a relationship is you."
sam-
this is all good. sad enough that we forget some (more than "some"?) of it when we're in relationships...
2 lines i do find "anti-man", though:
- Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
while i personally am very reluctant to "tell everything" - it's never because i think "she'll use it against me later" ... what sick approach to a relationship is that?
- Never co-sign for a man.
what about a man co-signing for a woman ... is that allowed?
in the end ... there are no hard rules ... which is both the great AND the tough thing about relationships, no?
--raf*
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